Setting limits Part I-social emotional skills

 Part one -Rules

Setting limits are very important for young children. You allowed  her to explore from birth until three years old now you must begin setting limits.You should fist begin by explaining why some behaviors are not acceptable. I know when he was two you would allow him to jump from the table (or other places you made the area safe, chair, small table etc.) and that was ok because he was learning to take risk .

At three he is now starting to learn what behaviors are socially acceptable in different spaces,we call these rules. These behaviors must be taught at home. You may have a simple rule that says there is no eating on the couch we all must eat at the table because the table is easier to clean when it gets dirty.

Over time your toddler will understand and participate in this rule starting at home.You must be consistent and give praise when your child participates (cooperates) in the rule. Eventually he will be able to explain the rule to you and others if you try to break the rule.

When this become a part of your toddler's vocabulary he will participate without a reminder.
Rules must be age appropriate . This helps your child when they get to school in a few ways :

1. They will be familiar with the vocabulary 
2. They will understand that there are limits and boundaries
3. This will help your child to cooperate with other adults/children

Socialization begins at home.